Friends and family

Not all family and friends will have had a baby or breastfed, but you play a vital role.

• Don't be embarrassed if she is feeding in front of you - remember she is feeding her baby - you wouldn't be embarrassed if she had a bottle of formula in her hand.
• Don't assume that she will want to be alone or in private to feed her baby - most women hate being locked away on their own. She will probably want to chat and talk to you as normal.
• Remember that she is learning a new skill and needs help to build her confidence.
• Sit next to rather than opposite her - that way you don't have to 'avoid’ looking at her while she is feeding but can still have eye contact while talking.
• Offer to help, by making her more comfortable or getting her a drink.
• Try not to ask questions like 'how do you know whether the baby is getting enough milk?' - she may start doubting herself and worry unnecessarily.
• Help out your friend by bringing lunch/dinner when you visit her or offering to pop out to the shops for her.
• Join the #BesideYou Facebook, Twitter and Instagram accounts and share positive messages about breastfeeding.
• Offer to go with her to breastfeeding drop-in, it can be daunting to meet new people, you can help to break the ice and make her feel more relaxed.